Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Thursday, September 29, 2011

BOOTS AND BASKETBALLS





When I  was growing up,  and   played in  my friends garages we  detoured  around yard tools , a model T , boxes  never unpacked from residency re locations for their dads corporate jobs, Christmas decorations, or an ancestors dresser.


My parents were in business in the barnstorm  industry for  40 years.Depending on the year and the  season my childhood garage had a landscape of its own. There was never enough room for all of the vehicles.  Depending on the season and the year that landscape changed to.Vehicles ranged from station wagons, sedans, vans and limousines .

In the early years there was one vehicle. When it was on the road October-May there was no household vehicle even in the late fifties, with children at home. Grocery shopping was available at the corner neighborhood mom and pop stores, doctors made house calls, and milk was delivered daily to our door step.

My dad replaced more transmissions, brakes, engines, and autos in a years time than most people do in a lifetime. Replacing vehicles was an extraordinary expense , Autos would have numerous repairs for body and mechanical work every year. The travel was immense. coast to coast 24- 7 sleet, snow, rain ,hail, mountains  could not be avoided traveling thousands and thousands of miles every month. Super highways were not connected  or simply did not exist. Gas stations were self serve, far between and did not offer 24 hour convienance service. My dad was notorious when on tour  for saying "we have to keep time we can make it to the petrol station in whatever city or town was ahead." This resulted in more than one occasion of gas depletion to vapors, flagging down a ride to find gas or pushing the car closer to a gas station and getting an attendant to come to the rescue with gas.

In the nineteen sixties he expanded to fleets a revolving rotation of vehicles to keep the mileage down and have extra vehicles available when one was destroyed, and he needed to have one driven to a location immediately.

My first home was shared with my great grandpa , my older brother, my older sister, my mom, my dad, aunt my mom's sister. We had no garage. I played on the sidewalk and hung out at Billy Coonrod's pigeon coops. My dad was away on the road coaching and managing his Texas Cowgirls basketball team, Chic's Basketball team, Satchel Paige, baseball teams, and halftime acts. Boarding houses  in our hometown were rented for residence when the teams were off the road or in training. Mrs. Springer's  house was one of those homes, her brother Dr Springer delivered me and  most of my siblings. Prior to that my dad stayed in Bismark N.D.  with his basketball players and my older brother. After marrying my mom on the road when she was playing pro basketball for him, he settled her and my brother in Beloit- his hometown to raise a family. My sister Julie was born at Great Grandpa Harley's house and so was I.  Great Grandpa Harley had raised my dad.  He passed away and my dad moved us over the border to a kid friendly neighborhood with a city park and sledding hill across the street.


My first garage of memory was at that small rented brick house. I was a pre schooler. My dad had a downtown office and an office in our basement. The basement held public relation materials, and bunk beds for 8 for the basketball players when they were in the area a TV room , shower and dressing room. They had a home to relax in eat home cooked meals. In the summer professional baseball players ( including Cuban exiles) would sleep in the bunk beds and stay with our family. That garage housed the custom World Famous Texas Cowgirls luggage rack, which on occasion was filled with sand for the kids enjoyment in the summer.  My oldest brother Dennis rode an ice cream cart with a bicycle on the back and an ice cream truck on the front. He would come home from work spark up my dad's public address system throw on his King -Elvis and dance to the albums singing with the microphone. I was awestruck and glued to my lawn chair , my sister Julie and I ready and waiting for the nightly pre- supper show. A Cadillac limo, a two seater powder blue Thunderbird ( my mom's) and a van  occupied the driveway for transportation for all of these people family and athletes alike.

The home I spent  the most years growing up in was purchased when I was in the third grade. We moved after we had a house fire. The athletes  were now  housed in hotels (never motels). That was a  huge expense for my parents. Our family grew to nine. My dad retained a downtown office in our new town and one at home. He had 800 numbers at both, built a basketball court in the backyard and still had the revolving door of athletes and entertainers in and out of our home.  A baseball field was behind our house . The street had a culdesac and over 60 kids in 20 homes. Our family and the White's who lived directly across the street made up 14 of us kids on the block.

This garage was my haven  for a period of time then heated and remodeled to a rec room. When it was the garage  the walls were lined with  crates of Converse shoes, western boots, Harlem Queens and Texas Cowgirls uniforms, basketballs,  annual basketball fan  program books, pageant tiaras,  crates of state and national final program books, sponsor banners, basketball team jackets, baseball program books, public address  sound systems,  a trunk carrier with goofy ball, lasso ropes pistols, cowgirl hats, boots, vests  and the custom team traveling racks.

The garage transformed into my showcase in the summers, where I draped curtains scenery, and lights  to produce and choreograph productions.  A makeshift ticket booth, in the driveway with benches and lawn chairs for spectator  seating required daily set up and take down. There was  no shortage of talent in my  6 siblings and large pool of neighbor kids.

My tenure as summer street entertainer ended when the garage was remodeled into a recreation family room.

The  wares of my dads trade moved to his downtown office.

I drove by my childhood home recently. the basketball court is still there. The recreation family room was reconstructed back to the garage it had been in my grade school summer  showcase days. A new 4 car garage was constructed at the end of a new long driveway. I sat a moment and thought "now that would be a garage to put shows on in"  but quickly felt nostalgic and would prefer the old garage any day over the new modern one. I might just knock on the door and ask the retired coach that lives there if  I could have a moment to stand in my old garage and reminisce .

Saturday, February 5, 2011

A SPLIT MOMENT IN TIME WITH EPIC RESULTS

How the Greenbay Packer vs Chicago Bears 2011 playoff game changed the motion of life.

by Erin Hovland-Moffitt on Saturday, February 5, 2011 at 1:18am
Today I heard the voice  my  father's  in his little sister..... for the very first time.  

I cannot describe the degree of deep, deep connection  I am feeling. My father passed away when I was 22, I am now  53. The chain of events that brought us together happened by a conversation that  was not based on her.

I introduced myself when I heard a hello  "  My name is Erin Hovland-Moffitt I am Dempsey Hovland's daughter, did you know him?" She said there was Dempster Hovland that was spoke of  that I heard stories of but we never met" I said "he was my Dad he changed his name to Dempsey in 1949." He is your brother,
I am your niece.

My father was born 21 years before her. She knew little of her father, my father knew little of their father but the emotions she shared with me were exactly the stories I had heard of him in whispers from my grandma
(his first wife who divorced him as soon as my dad was born.) My dad never spoke of him.
It was an unwritten rule, that i am certain had dark shadows of memories and pain attached to that unwritten rule.

I have had this  small black and white candid photo of a cute Shirley Temple look alike toe headed, curly mopped little girl for 33 years. I would take it out with my research and wonder ,wonder, wonder if the whisper I heard as a young child was true. "I think your dad had a little sister"

Inscribed in cursive handwriting  is a first and middle name only on the back of the Brownie Camera photo. I never knew who she was, or why my mom preserved  it  with our family photos, I saw it first when I was seven . Our house had burned we were staying with neighbors. My mom hung photos and birth certificates on a bureau mirror to dry the fire hose soaked documents. This photo had been preserved  protected and was unstained .

'Who is that little girl." She smiled leaned her head to the side and said nothing, staring at the photo with compassion.  I now know the reality , but I cannot fully grasp the magnitude of  feelings.  The energy is vibrating, yet  a floating peaceful energy. The emotion is kind.
I have been gifted the  part of my dad that was missing, I have no doubt he wondered and worried about her his entire life.

I have recently found relatives from my moms massive family from the south, those extensions of family that share the same blood are special. The Holder family covers Arkansas to Texas to Arizona to Colorado to Oklahoma to Illinois to Wisconsin and beyond. Facebook has brought us together.  My dad only had himself growing up  as a Hovland he was raised by his grandma and was not blessed with a big family like my mom. 
Parent's of his peers called him the "curly haired angel faced orphan  boy with grandiose dreams . He proved them all wrong his dreams were as real as his jade and diamond inserts in the back of his teeth. This little boy became   a very well known successful  .multiple sports team owner  and sports and entertainment. promoter .

This serene 71 year old woman who expressed what a wonderful life she has lived is my closet direct bloodline  :next to my 4 brothers,two sisters, my four sons, and new baby granddaughter Sophia . She is my Dad's only direct and closest living relative, He is the big brother she never, met even though they lived  less than 10 miles apart in distance. Or did she?

Two weeks ago at the Chicago Bear - Green Bay Packer  playoff game  my  50 year old brother Todd was heavy with  hand in head as he witnessed his sacred Bears lackluster performance  at Soldier Filed and loss of the Super Bowl challenge.

At the same moment  in Wisconsin Packers fans were gathered in front of  their television a few miles from me. A 40 year old man named Dave, whom I have known since he was a teenager was telling the thrilling true story of my dad and the magic of His World famous Texas Cowgirls basketball team at the football party. He messaged me on facebook that night. His facebook message was " I was telling the Texas Cowgirl story my mom looked at me and said  "Dave   Dempsey was my  relative I knew his little sister.." 40 years and Dave and I never knew we were related. His mom facebooked me and told me details of my dad's sister and within days mailed photos of her  , group photos of  dozens of people I am related to and a photo of my dad's and his little sister's father.

Then another message came to my inbox
' I called a few of my mom's nieces. and this is your dad's sisters phone number ." I spent the next two days 
thinking it through concerned of the shock to her, and I had a feeling making the connection to their dad may not be a positive.
 I  nervously dialed from my magic jack Wisconsin to New Mexico,
That little girl we all wondered about was shocked .  Our voices would blend in  wow's I need to sit and feel this, and this is  good .


I cannot fully  describe the degree of deep ,deep meaningful connection to my dad  that I am feeling, from finding her. He has been gone 31 years.  I have been working on his bigger than life life story and his historical accomplishments.
His little sister and I talked for  two  floating hours today.
Neither of us wanted to hang up. 

My dad was born in 1918 in passed away in 1979 from an aneurysm at 61. His father was never in his life. My dad was in France  fighting as a soldier in the Army Air Corps on the fronts in WWII when he got the wire that his father died. His father's daughter was four, when was backing out of a bar parking lot in early afternoon and was struck. and It was expressed by her that "they were both better off that he
neglected and abandoned my dad and he was not her her life long enough to cause a lot of harm" For the first time I no longer felt sad that my dad never had a dad. I felt compassion for my grandma and my dad's sisters mom. They my dad and his sister he never met had that in common.

I cannot help but wonder if the photo of that sad little girl sitting on her stoop alone was possibly taken by my dad . She would not have known who the man was in his Army uniform standing on the sidewalk taking  her photo. This is how I wish to believe the photo of that little girl that was my dads sister, (my dads little sister I just cannot say that aloud enough) became a treasured and gently cared for treasure  in our families keepsakes I concluded today that the reason there was no last name on her photo was because 
he had taken the photo of his little sister  and that was his way of  having her with him,
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